Chante JVR

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Many websites will tell you to send your invites 8 to 12 weeks before the time. However, my partner, Jeremy, and I sent ours 8 months ahead of time. And here’s why!

A lot of our family and friends are currently overseas in Canada, the UK and Australia. Some are also coming from Cape Town. Considering the distance and the logistics involved. it just didn’t seem right to give them such little notice. We wanted to give them enough time to plan, whether it be with work, travel arrangements or to save up money for the trip.

While many people would suggest sending a ‘Save the Date’ card rather than send the invitation so far ahead of time, it just didn’t seem feasible to us. It’s an extra expense and additionally, fewer and fewer couples are opting to do it.

Of course, sending invitations so far in advance did come with some risks. There was a chance that our guests might forget about the wedding by the time the big day rolled around. To prevent this, we made sure to send out reminders closer to the wedding date, including a gentle nudge to RSVP. In true passive-aggressive fashion, I will send a text to everyone who hasn’t RSVP-ed yet saying, ‘So sorry you can’t make it to our wedding but we will be sure to send you photos!’ and then watch as the late RSVP-ers come crawling out of the woodwork.

We’ve also created a wedding website through Joy with all the necessary details, such as the date, location, and accommodation options, which our guests could refer to at any time.

Overall, we felt that sending our invitations eight months ahead of time was the best decision for us and our guests. It allowed our guests to plan accordingly, and it also gave us peace of mind knowing that everyone had plenty of notice.

Will you be doing the same?

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